There was an extended "fire starting trial"; which was good fun to quietly observe considering how wet our materials were. The Silver Salmon gave it their best effort and problem solved gusty wind conditions together and tried out several different modalities ("let's try it this way, let's try that"), and yet their fire did not catch. Though this experience may have been a bit frustrating for the participants, the lessons of patience, practice, and not having things always turn out the way you expect them to remains good medicine for these girls. Resilience when things don't go your way is a character trait that gains ground when practiced.
Demonstrating more resilience and problem solving skills, we played many rounds of "Squirrel". It was a chilly day with sporadic rain showers and we had little protection from the gusty wind. To stay warm, happy and engaged despite less than ideal weather conditions, we played games. Games are also good for establishing relationships. We started with a fun round of Spider's web, but needed a more active game to warm us up. Playing Squirrel can be tricky business for children because it requires some emotional maturity. The gist of the game is this: Each squirrel has their own nest. There is one large cache of cones that each squirrel may access as food storage, but can carry one (and only one) cone from the group cache to their own individual nest. That cache happens to be guarded by a hungry coyote, and if a squirrel gets tagged by the coyote they must drop their cone, go back home and try again. Because this is wintertime and each squirrel must have a certain number of cones to survive the harsh conditions of winter, they can also raid each other's nests for fir cones. What?! Friendly squirrels can steal from each other? YES! This aspect of the game challenges friend/foe relationships and can result in hurt feelings as friends steal from friends. This mentor is pleased to report that SO MUCH stealing went on, and all in good fun. There was lots of strategizing, fast moving, quick thinking and truce building among the squirrels, yet some still did not survive the winter after playing for about 20 minutes. So then another game would ensue with a new coyote and new nests. We played this game for hours, it seemed like. Whew. Good work, girls!
Watched the train pass by a few times...
We ended our day with an activity we call the web of life. We talked about our fall season and all the ways we feel connected to the environment, our exploring, the service we perform, and each other. Passing around a ball of yarn to physically connect us illustrates this web of connection. It's a nice opportunity to think about the previous outings and reflect on what this group really means to the girls. It's not the easiest thing for a new person to come into an established group and there can be growing pains and uncomfortable moments as we engage in working together and widening our circle. Group work like this is so important to all individuals in a family, it's dynamic, ever-changing, challenging and rewarding. Sometimes all at the same time! These relationships are a long term process we are engaged in, and some lessons require more opportunities to learn. This group is still learning to respectfully hold space for others in an opening or closing circle. Gosh, that can be annoying and feel disrespectful. Consider that there are always people we will meet that don't seem to recognize how their behavior may affect others. It's important to know that everyone is working on their skills and are in different places on their journey. What a great space to practice our compassion, acceptance and patience. Explorer Club Mottos like We Not Me, Widen Our Circle, and Challenge by Choice are empowering steps on our journey together as a group. We are on our way. The mentors have seen this group spend their time together like real salmon might do, in surges, eddies and even flowing backwards in our journey together. We acknowledge that we see new circles widening at every outing, and know that we have lots of opportunities to look forward to in our future. The Silver Salmon are task oriented and strive to do a good job at every service outing and are showing great resilience when playing challenging games. Go Salmon!For More Photos of our outing to Teddy Bear Cove, check this link. Sorry there are lots of blurry ones, those squirrels move FAST!














